Saturday, December 22, 2018
I lost my cousin and friend Sue back in August. It took her body 4 months to leave. The goodness she spread over this earth was incredible. That smile, always remembering stories, never not a kind word. She was feisty, stubborn, giving, strong.. only the best qualities. Yet lying in that hospital bed is what her family had to endure day after day after day. Her mom, made her bedroom look like Disney only with Donald Duck as the main event. I loved how she liked him best because he was less popular.. thats just “ so Sue” I walked into that room to say goodbye to my friend and it just glistened of a mother who would do anything for her child to make her comfortable. It also kept her busy, since your child is not supposed to leave you first.
My Uncle Rich sitting in a chair, taking a snooze. Me saying hello , waking him up and when i questioned why he was sleeping he said in only that way that he can “ what else am i supposed to do”
I don’t know much about Sue’s life. She didn’t talk much ( such a Lomot) about feelings. I knew she worked, loved playing volleyball and going to sporting events with family, and watched the hallmark channel. She didn’t talk much about herself to me, even though we did weekly phone checkins for the last two years since she was diagnosed with breast cancer. What was or is so special about Sue, is that she didn’t have to talk. She exuded love. She went to every family event not begrudgingly but because she really wanted to be there. She’d talk to Uncle Eddy for hours because she liked listening. She cared about everyone. She sent my mother in law flowers one year for Easter and John and I didn’t bring her a thing. And then there was that crumb cake. Everyone in my family knows that crumb cake. Its not allowed in my house just as chocolate chip cookie dough is not because it brings out a monster in me. But I ate, just the crumbs.... and if you never ever had the opportunity your loss. Pure sweet sugar, just like Sue. We will carry on the tradition of trying to replicate that crumb cake... but somehow it just wont be the same.
This earth lost a very special person. But she is in a better place where she can now rest, and instead of taking care of everyone else, she can finally take care of herself. Love you Sue
